EM & BS

Sam, my nine-year-old, has been having some trouble this year. This is not really new, but over the past few months, it has become a "hands on" issue.

One of the things we are doing for Sam is having him talk to a psychologist about his issues. They are too big for him, and i am too close to be the only one to help or listen to him. One of the things the psychologist is trying to explain to Sam (and everyone else) is that he (we) need to take responsibility for our actions. The part i am working on, too, is taking responsibility for my thoughts.

E.M.ing is short for Excuse Making. B.S.ing is short for Blame Shifting.

It is so amazing when looking at life from those two perspectives - very closely related - it is incredible to see how people interact with each other, and use EMing and BSing. The key for me, then, is to try to show by example other modes of operating. This has been considerably difficult, especially when trying to show by example with my ex.

Another observation i have made through this is that children with gifts (i.e. genius in specific learning areas, psychic gifts, etc.) have learning differences. My other child has difficulties in learning, too, and his gifts are different. Instead of squelching the gifts, i hope to find a way for them to deal with their individual needs.